Loving the articles New York Magazine is putting out at the moment. This one ties in nicely to the stories we heard recently at our first live event in LA.

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25 Famous Women on Overcoming Rejection

By Julie Ma

Dealing with rejection is a universal experience. Anyone who dares to chase after a dream will — at some point in the journey — encounter a closed door or a glass ceiling. People’s reactions to the word no are incredibly varied: Some give up immediately and slump back to wherever they came from, while others merely cackle in its face and attempt to forge on ahead — even if it means that they’ll fall flat on their faces for the millionth time.

Nobody knows more about dealing with rejection than writers, artists, and individuals in the creative fields. We’ve culled together words from women like Sylvia Plath, Yoko Ono, and Misty Copeland on how they’ve learned to deal with doors slamming in their faces and finding the will to rise above it all.

Sylvia Plath

“What if our work isn’t good enough? We get rejections. Isn’t this the world’s telling us we shouldn’t bother to be writers? How can we know if we work now hard and develop ourselves we will be more than mediocre? Isn’t this the world’s revenge on us for sticking our neck out? We can never know until we’ve worked, written. We have no guarantee we’ll get a Writer’s Degree. Weren’t the mothers and businessmen right after all? Shouldn’t we have avoided these disquieting questions and taken steady jobs and secured a good future for the kiddies?” — The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

Cheryl Strayed

“The strangest thing to come out of Wild’s success is how often people make incorrect assumptions about me. They assume writing is easy for me and I’ll never face rejection again. But of course I will and I do. The thing I’ve learned over and over again is never, ever assume that you’re going to get something — publication, award nominations, a prize, a residency, or fellowship. And never assume you aren’t going to get it either. The writing life doesn’t move in a straight line. I’ve had successes and rejections all along the way, at every stage of my career, and I will continue to do so. Acceptances and rejections don’t define me. They’re both part of what it means to be a writer. My job is to simply keep doing the work. Like — well, you know — a motherfucker.” — Guernica Mag, June 2013

Constance Wu

“I had another interviewer ask me, ‘When do you think you’re going to get through that door?’ I was like, the problem here is you’re already thinking there’s a door I need to get through, because that door is white Hollywood. Instead of, like, ‘Oh, that door doesn’t even value me anyway. Why am I trying to get into it?’ That’s a hard thing to justify, because we’re all humans with egos and insecurities, and we all want to be accepted and loved and admired. But I have to ask myself: ‘At what cost?’” — Vulture, June 2016

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